3 basic reasons why friendship in marriage is important:
1. To Have a Life Partner
* Man was not created to live alone - Genesis 2:18
* It's important to like the one you married, since this is the person you plan to grow old
with and share who you really are; your dreams, joy & very soul.
2. To Walk in Spiritual Unity
*Matthew 18:19 say's, "Again I tell you if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask
for, it will be done for you by My Father in heaven."
*Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 shows us 4 benefits of a friend: Productivity, Support, Warmth & Protection
NOTE: In order to get closer to your spouse you MUST first draw closer to God.
3. To Have Sexual Relationship
* To enjoy a quilt-free, disease-free, sin-free expression of love.
* Genesis 2:25 says, "The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame."
The Importance of Fun in your relationship
Too many couples do not keep fun alive in their marriages. Think back to when you were dating all the fun you used to have. What has happened is we have gotten too busy or we are too tired and all of our responsibilities have mounted up so we let all of these things ruin our fun times.
In order to keep the fun alive you will have to make time for it and when you do protect that time from any conflict. Once you have done these two things get up and go have fun with your spouse.
Find things that you will enjoy doing together.
What is the intended use of Sex? Look at I Corinthians 7:1-5 (Message)
Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly - but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality - the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting - but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it.
We are there to please our spouse and our spouse to please us. If your not sure what pleases your spouse simply ask them.
An important thing to remember is INTAMACY is NOT sex. Intamacy is meeting an emotional need INTERCOURSE is the sexual act.
Remember sex is like a dance, you have to learn how to dance. Men have to learn how to lead and women have to learn how to let him lead.
The POWER of your sex life is determined by the PURITY of your sex life.
Your sex life is based upon how well you want to GRATIFY/SATISFY your spouse.
Romance is the adult version of a play ground, and sex was for pleasure long before it was for having kids.