Thursday, February 14, 2008

Week 3 - Communication

If you missed last night we talked about how important it is that there is open communication within your marriage/relationship. Communication is the doorway to intamacy. We talked about how to handle conflit while preserving oneness as well as how to express critisim constructivley. Then we had a time for talking one on one with your spouse using the Speaker/Listener Technigue. This is an artifical way of spealing which creates a sturctured and safe environment when tough issues arise and things need to be talked out. It will also help you stay away from teh four danger signs of communicating.

1. Escalation
–Proverbs 15:1
(NIV) A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
2. Invalidation
3. Negative Interpretations
4. Avoidance and Withdrawal

The most important scripture to remmeber when it comes to communicating is James 1:19-20 which says: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for your anger does not produce God's righteousness. (NIV)

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